Real M.E.N.

Questions that wreck my mind, unanswered questions that tug and tear at my heart. Watching a friend suffer is an awful feeling, witnessing a family member suffer is devastating.

What makes a young woman with her whole life ahead her settle? Settle for a man that is an ex-drug dealing, “rap career” dreaming, lying, felon but unfortunately the father of her child. A man that proposed to her only weeks after knowing of her pregnancy, because it felt like the “right” thing to do. A man that carries photographs of other women in his wallet but not yours. A man that sleeps during the day and goes to the “studio” at night, only to return home drunk and high. Why does she do it to herself? Why help pay his cell phone bills, car note, even give him gas money?
If these questions don’t boggle the mind, maybe the next few will: Why let a man that hasn’t provided for you or your child at all persuade you into a threesome with a 18 year old coworker? Why be in shock, heartbroken once hearing news of that same girl pregnant with his child? Why seek sympathy and comfort from family, then fund his birthday strip club party 4 days later?.. How blind is love?
Why listen in on his mother’s phone conversation with that 18 year old girl discussing future arrangements and shopping dates in the car you help pay for, build the nerve to finally leave… But then return to him a week later?
Is it low self-esteem? Is it youth? Is it allure of maybe one day having the traditional happy family? Is it the idea that he will change, that he will mature into the “ideal” role? Is it really Love? It can’t be… Right?


- Adjasont Thoughts