Real M.E.N.

My homies and I often make jokes about one another’s exes; harmless, meaningless guy talk. But when the laughs are done and they ask me “How is _____ anyway? Y’all still talk to each other?”, my response has never changed no matter who they ask me about: “I don’t know, I don’t talk to her”. To them it makes me seem heartless and detached, but I see no major reason to stay in contact with an ex. And by contact I mean consistently, not just holiday/birthday texts. I feel that you take all that was wrong with that relationship and learn from it, on your end and your partner’s. Chit-chatting is okay, if you have loved the person it’s only natural to see how good they’re doing(or bad if they left you..Lol). I understand that it may be hard to be with someone for years, to share dreams and fears, then suddenly cut them out of your life. But I also think actively keeping that person in your life can maybe hinder your personal growth. You both may have established fond relationships with one another’s family and friends, divorcing them isn’t necessary I feel. More like a judgement call.

I’ve seen people try to be friends after the breakup phase and more than half the time they usually back-slide, sleep together, feelings get reattached/twisted, and they break up again! Only this time the departure is bitter. My break up remedy is cold, but at least I don’t have bad memories of my exes.

Why do people keep exes around? I’m asking, this question isn’t rhetorical. From a guy’s perspective I can only think of one reason to keep an ex around: post breakup sex. Seriously. If I’m through with you and I’m moving on with my life, or at least trying to, why else do we need to stay in close contact? Maybe I’m being too dismissive. But I think 3 out of 5 guys would agree with me. Actually I know a guy that had a woman breakup with him because she felt their relationship didn’t have a future. This guy’s last request, sadly, was to remain friends but with benefits. The old “BFF”(Best Friends F**king). Women aren’t exempt from this act neither, though women are mostly all about emotions and feelings they have needs too.

I’m a firm believer in letting someone live their life, exploring all endeavors, and if the love is true and meant to be God will intersect your road with that person again…


- Adjasont Thoughts