Real M.E.N.

“Payin’ For It”. No matter how sweet or “Playa” a dude claims his game is, he has/will “Paid for It” atleast once in his life. Some men have no shame in admitting this, hence the phrase “It ain’t trickin if you got it”. It’s inevitable. Am I downgrading these individuals, not at all, I’ve been guilty of it too. But I sense you still have doubts, let me elaborate.

All guys at some stage in their life just want sex from women, nothing more. Plain and simple. We’ll do almost anything to get it; lie, stunt,etc. Like I said, it’s a stage. It’s when a guy sees a women and instinctively looks her up and down; rating her butt, breast, lips, and hips. He decides in that time frame, that 2-4 seconds whether or not he wants to have sex with her. In this situation let’s say she’s sexy, and he wants her. He introduces himself, chats it up and he is lucky enough to score a date that Saturday. Keep in mind she is very attractive so he wants to impress her, to persuade her. Where does he start? A restaurant, because what’s a good date without food? He selects a nice restaurant serving full course meal and premium beverages, total ranging from $55-$90. Steep? Maybe(Women tend to become more open when good food is present). But first date outcomes affect second date potential. Next, he has to decide the activity, the core of the date. This can be equal or even more important than picking the restaurant because it reveals to her your planning ability and level of maturity. Movie? I wouldn’t recommend because they are too easy and bland, communication is cut off as well being that you are in [[Shhh!! No Talking!!!]] A nightclub? Absolutely not. He has much more to lose than gain from a “points” perspective. Loud music, crowded surroundings, and shouting into her ear “Are you having a good time?!?!” every 20 minutes won’t exactly win her over. A jazz bar? A live band, soothing music, and game of pool can lighten the mood. If he’s lucky there may be a drink and food special. If not, beverages and pool table $30.

His plans are in place, now he must address his “Presentation”. He checks his closet and he has dope sweater he’s been holding out on, but he could really use some nice kicks to make it all work. He goes to the mall and has luck with a department store sale. $55 for a pair of nice Calvin Klein’s. His gear is fresh but he’s in between haircuts, quick trip to the barbershop. Don’t forget to tally another $15, $20 if a shave is included. Last stop the car wash, $5. Remember it’s all about “Presentation”.

For this date he’s approaching a total upward of $100, one date, potentially one date of many to come meaning more money. He may score that weekend IF everything goes perfect, IF the convo is great, and IF the alcohol plays wingman. More than likely he won’t tho, there will be more dates ahead emptying his checking account even more. Let’s hope he balances his checkbook well, because he still has give his Girlfriend the same exact treatment that Friday. But that’s another story… **winks**


-Adjasont Thoughts