Real M.E.N.

Sex. Sex. SEX! It’s on the radio, television, in magazines, political scandals, and even used as a spring board to catapult into stardom (Kim Kardashian, Kat Stacks, eg). It’s everywhere. As a marketing tool sex is a solid foundation and driving force, but does that go the same for relationships? Remember they are only marketing what we as a society want, marketing what keeps us tuned in to their reality/TV shows (Sex In The City, Desperate Housewives, Tru Blood).


How important is sex in a relationship? Does it make/break a relationship? It’s a serious question because judging by where we are right now in today’s world, it’s obvious sex is a major part of it.


Sex is viewed differently by everyone. It can be used to express Love, to create to life, to progress, as a bargaining tool, as a way of revenge, the list is never-ending and can applied to both women and men. No one is exempt. But more specifically how does sex affect men and women in a relationship? I’m a man so I can only speak from the male’s point of view. Actually, being that I feel this topic is very important I’ll put myself on the chopping block and speak from experience.


Sex to me in a relationship is important. I needs it. I gots to have it. Does that make me weak? To you maybe, but I’m a very sexual individual. I may not broadcast it, but I am. It’s a form of expression. And by looking at my past relationships, sex has affected them drastically. For instance, my first Love. High school sweet hearts. Best friends. Our passion was unmatched, in our 5 year relationship there wasn’t a place we hadn’t made Love in or a position we hadn’t yet to explore. Sexssions that appeared as if they were living animated tales from the sticky pages of Zane Books…Yea. It was wonderful, until we had what I call to this day “The Conversation”. She told me she wanted to be closer to God, that she could see herself losing drifting from him more and more everyday. She was rebuilding her relationship with Him, changing her ways, and giving up certain things. One of those “; you guessed it. Sex.


I respected her decision, I Loved her deeply and who was I to come between her and our Creator? To choose between me and the ultimate Love, how could I? I was fine for the first month I’d say, month 2 was the test, and by the third month I had nicknames for my left and right hand.


Then I started to see gradual changes. Our relationship was becoming shaky, the smallest disagreement would elevate to nasty fights. And even when we apologized for those arguments, it wasn’t the same because some of the best sex you can have to relieve that tension and reassure your Love for that person in my opinion is make-up sex. And to add on top of it all, we were in college. Two different colleges, an hour and some change apart. I always say that long distance relationships are hard but can be done, but long distance college relationships are nearly impossible. One night changed our relationship forever, one night that showed me how selfish I had become…(to be continued)


-Adjasont Thoughts