Real M.E.N.

Question: Why is it when a lady, mostly African American women, meets a guy she tries to figure out all the reasons she cant talk to him before she ever thinks about talking to him?









Lets face it we all judge, we’re not suppose to and everyone claims not to but we do, it’s human nature. With that being said I believe women are the more judgmental sex, especially in dating. Don’t agree?? Beg to differ?? Of course you do. Let me give you example: A guy, Tyrone, gets off late from a hard day at work because a meeting goes lasted longer than expected, and he is running late to a friendly get together on a Friday night. A get together where he is looking forward to being introduced to this lovely friend his homie’s girlfriend has been going on and on about. It’s late so there’s no use of going to the barbershop for that fresh fade, that’s suicide, its too crowded. Keep in mind it’s Friday, almost the the end of the week so it’s a chance that his wardrobe is limited due to the work week, business luncheons, etc. So he decides to dress down, comfortable, heck it was long day. Ok now fast forward to the friendly gathering at his friend’s apartment. He walks in the door, greets his homie and then he sees Her. Glowing caramel skin, beautiful smile, wearing jeans hugging nice curves and legs long as 45 South. He makes eye contact with Her and “It” happens. Her inner thoughts:


“Look at those shoes!! No wonder he’s late, he must have walked the whole Westheimer strip to get here!! Does he own a iron?! Atleast a dryer to knock the wrinkles out that Polo Golf shirt. Really dude?! And his hair is…UGGHH!! He must be broke, he cant even afford a haircut. I’ma kill Kim for setting me up on this one!!..”


Harsh huh, yea I know. My Real M.E.N. brothers like to say that all women have a point system(see homepage for breakdown of the Point System), a way of deciding if a man meets her standards. I never bash a woman for having standards, I believe you should know what you want, it saves other person’s time and most importantly your time. But after taking a peek inside Kim friend’s mind, the poor guy is already down 9-15 points. Already in the red, the negative, before saying these four simple words “Hello. How are you?”. Does she know about his extra hours at the job or him being behind on laundry? No. Would she give him the benefit of the doubt if she did know? Maybe, but more than likely no because she would see his job as time consuming and a problem in the future when she may want attention; and his laundry habits would be symbolic of him being lazy and irresponsible. And let’s not forget the hair!! But I’d rather not go into that, just know she has a theory for that as well. More assumptions. More judgments.


- Adjasont Thoughts